Rate Your Life Satisfaction to Create Better Life Choices

There are many ways that we measure our satisfaction or contentment with our life experiences. I remember a friend named Michael who continually rated his top experiences of FUN in a rating system. He would put memories of events in order from 1 through 10, with “1” being the highest rating. If a night out with friends rated a “3,” you can be sure he had a really great time!

Michael could tell you at any moment the list of events and the rating. As a new and fantastic experience showed up, he would bump a lesser experience out of the top 10 list.

What I loved about this: He could access his ‘satisfaction’ moments within seconds!

This quick access system was a way that Michael could change a ‘bummed out’ moment to a smile – because he memorized and recounted these times often in his thoughts.

What gives you a smile? Are you enjoying the journey of your life? 

We may feel happier overall in some areas of life than others – for example, I might be feeling fulfilled in my friendships, but generally out of harmony with my physical environment (where I live). If I know the degree of discontent, I can make specific choices to see improvements in that area.

My Top 10 List would include outdoor dinners with friends!
My Top 10 List would include outdoor dinners with friends!

Evaluate your level of contentment with the Life Satisfaction Wheel

This wonderful tool is a circle that is sectioned off like pieces of a pie, and you can label each section with an area of your life; Spiritual Alignment, Health & Body Image, Recreation & Rest, Romance & Marriage, and more.

Download WHEEL here.

Using the Life Satisfaction Wheel:

  • Use the suggested labels at the bottom of the page and place them on sections around the outside of the wheel.
  • Note that the Satisfaction rating is 1 to 10, with 1 representing very low satisfaction and 10 representing a great sense of satisfaction.
  • Look at one section at a time and evaluate your feelings of fulfillment with that area of your life. Place a dot in that section on the number that best represents your feelings.
  • Once all the dots are in place around the Wheel, you can connect the dots with a continuous line around the inside of the circle. This will look a bit like a spider web, and it lets you see clearly areas that are stretching the web (high satisfaction) and areas that are contracting the web (low satisfaction).

There is something very powerful about a rating system!

When we put a number to the level of satisfaction for an area, we feel more in control of making changes going forward. It is no longer just a ‘general dissatisfaction’ feeling – it is trackable, and therefore open to change.

If I have a ‘5’ on the Life Satisfaction Wheel in the category of ‘Community Involvement,’ then I might realize that I am not doing as much in my community as I would like. Perhaps I enjoy participating in fundraiser 3-mile walks, but I have not joined a walk for over two years. Looking at the ‘5’ helps me identify that I can make some specific choices that would change that number.

Love it - Not Love it Cycle

Allow the Wheel to be what it is – Accept and do not get negative

It is unrealistic to believe that we will have full 9 or 10 level contentment with all areas of our life at the same time. That would go against the Law of Cycles.

Accept what the Wheel shows you once it is filled in. You are being honest with yourself and there is no room for beating yourself up later. You are not a “bad person” for having a low number in the ‘Friends and Family’ category. You are a dissatisfied person who is actively looking to improve your life experiences.

 Life is constantly changing – so are your feelings about it

Doing a review every 6 months or so allows us to see what changes have occurred, and if we are on track for what we are choosing to manifest and accomplish in this lifetime.

My husband's favorite thing is planning our travel days!
My husband’s favorite thing is planning our travel days – His satisfaction is a 10!

Enjoy this tool – it is designed to help you take conscious steps toward a more satisfying experience on this planet!

Blessings, Robin



Alchemy Tips: Peppermint, Eucalyptus, and Oregano Oils

Winter winds, chapped lips, sore throats and chest cough – not my favorite part of this season! Holistically, let’s find ways to keep ourselves strong.

Here are my three favorite essential oils:

  • Peppermint Oil – cleans bacteria from the air; clears the mind
  • Eucalyptus Oil – great for respiratory ailments; helps a sore throat
  • Oregano Oil – clears chronic issues; asthma, bronchitis and more

These three ‘miracle’ workers help with a number of issues, including aiding digestion and clearing skin rashes. But my focus is on the respiratory tract.

Breathing air is necessary for life – and when it is inhibited, we have an internal fear switch that can go on that basically says, “I am not well – I am not surviving.” Even if you are not aware of this thought consciously – your instinctual side is – and this can begin to color how you see your day, your week, your world.

To remove the struggle, let’s clean up the air, and help our lungs!

First – I want to be clear that I am recommending Peppermint oil and Oregano oil be used in diffusers to put the scent into the air. Eucalyptus oil can be used on the body, rubbed into the chest as long as you add another diluting-type oil. Also, if you are pregnant, read about these oils carefully, as they may not be recommended during pregnancy.

Second – I will refer to diluting oil, and that means using more of this oil and only a couple of drops of the essential oil. Diluting oils can be Jojoba oil, Almond Oil, Sesame Oil, Coconut oil (liquid) and even Olive oil. Vitamin E oil may be too thick to spread.

Third – I mention diffusers. If you don’t know what diffusers are, you can check out this information on different types of diffusers, and also visit your local organic products store, and you will find lots of options as well.

PEPPERMINT:  I have used peppermint oil for years. I love this oil! As a fan of the old fashioned water with tea candle below-type of diffuser, this is my oil of choice daily in my home. It assists in cleaning the air as it has anti-fungal properties, so my husband’s allergies are lessened. This oil also stimulates and refreshes the brain, so it is great to put into the air when you are mentally fatigued. MORE ON PEPPERMINT

I do NOT put peppermint on my body, as it is very strong and can burn. Even with a diluting oil, I feel this is too strong for me. If you see it recommended that way and want to try it on your chest, temples, etc., please have plenty of diluting oil handy.

Eucalyptus leaves
Eucalyptus leaves; Google image

EUCALYPTUS:  Every time I have a sore throat and chest cough, I turn to eucalyptus essential oil. With this oil, I always use a diluting oil and my favorite is Jojoba oil. It is relatively inexpensive and spreads very well. Also, jojoba oil regenerates the skin tissue. MORE ON EUCALYPTUS

As soon as I put this on my throat (outside, not inside!), I feel immediate relief. Remember, essential oils penetrate the skin in 30 seconds, so it is on its way to providing relief to your internal organs. Eucalyptus is anti-bacterial and anti-inflammatory in properties. ALWAYS wash your hands completely with soap & water, as you do not want to rub your eyes later and accidentally put oil in your eye area. SAFETY GUIDELINES

OREGANO:  As a new fan of Oregano oil, I am hooked! This essential oil is amazing, and the results are quick for chronic issues (two to four weeks). Oregano oil is anti-fungal and anti-bacterial in properties. I have been dealing with bronchitis on and off for two years and this was recommended to me recently. I was informed that the best format for me was to inhale it. Caution alert – sniffing right from the bottle can cause burning in the nose!

I have been putting this in my diffuser in my home office daily and I use about 10 drops in the small water container. It is strong, so I can smell it continuously. Since I am in my office for about 6 hours per day, this is a lot of infusion. Inside of 2 weeks I noticed immediate results. I can breathe deep and there is no tightness in the bottom of my lung area (the alveoli). I have been outside on some sunny February days to do two-mile walks, and there is no struggle with breathing. Thank You, Oregano!! MORE ON OREGANO

Again, I highly recommend you read the SAFETY GUIDELINES on using the oils before getting started.

Clean Air, Clear Lungs and we are set to BREATHE in and be joyously present every day!

Blessings, Robin


Soul Journey: The Law of Incubation

Every single thing, matter and un-matter, has an incubation period – and you just need to sit your gorgeous self on it and it will tell you when it is ready.

–Melanie Johnson, KMP therapist

It is the beginning of a new year, and we excitedly vision new goals, new projects, and the birthing of new Dreams. This joy fills us with lots of STEAM; energy to forge ahead and make grand plans! And since we know that Intention and Vision are the first steps for major manifestation, this is time well-spent.

In the spirit of accountability (to ourselves) we may tell others our Dreams, Hopes and Desires. We set planning steps in process and we focus wholeheartedly on this wondrous new idea. This IS the exciting part!

Let’s fast-forward three months, and what we may find is that our burst of energy is wearing down, and we might even be at a ‘waiting place,’ as we look for confirmation that our Dream is making progress. This slowing down can fill us with impatience, frustration, and sometimes even depression.

Incubation is a Universal Law – it is part of our Life Process

The beautiful quote a the beginning of the article is by Melanie Johnson, MA, R-DMT, MCC, KMP, and she is a Kestenberg Movement Profile expert. Her daily life is all about MOVEMENT as a healing therapy that shifts our habits and attitudes. But Melanie knows that before a great and cohesive movement occurs, an incubation period is necessary (a learning and integrating period) and slowing down is part of the process.

Every mother on the planet experiences this – knowing that the incubation time during the pregnancy cannot be rushed and must be allowed to take is full course. The mother duck sits still, keeping the egg warm. Oh, how patient she is!

So, how can we prepare for this ‘incubation’ period of our Dream?

Expecting the Law of Incubation

Since ‘incubation’ – the process of allowing something to quietly grow on the inside – is a part of the life process for bringing in a new creation, it helps if we find ways to manage the emotions that come up when everything slows down.

What NOT to do:

  • Throw things against the wall
  • Eat everything in sight
  • Push every angle even more aggressively
  • Cry, cry and cry some more
  • Bark at the supportive people in your life

I know this list might get a chuckle, but you probably recognize some familiar behavior there. What you might also realize is that, in looking back, it made no difference to the actual progress of the Dream.

How to recognize if your Dream is in a true period of Incubation

  • You have done all the physical action required to move it forward (at this level)
  • You are waiting for others involved to comprehend and state commitment level
  • Every door is closing right now and you have no new solutions
  • You are mentally exhausted with it right now
  • A new direction is needed, and nothing is showing up (yet)

The incubation period can be applied to any field of work, from engineering to fine art to writing to entrepreneurship, and more. All birthing processes need some time to grow, especially if you have already set foundations in motion.

What TO do:

  • Stop and reflect: is this a time of ‘incubation?’
  • Breathe – take three deep breaths
  • Commit to set it aside for 48 hours
  • Get out in Nature – seriously!
  • Ask for the new solutions or direction to come to you in your nighttime dreams
  • WAIT until you get the nudge that it is ready to hatch!

We need to take a step back, so the first step is reflection on the whole process. Then take some deep breaths – this will relax your body and clear your mind. Truly commit to taking some time away from the Dream (project, issue) and I recommend at least 48 hours. Try to get outside, as nature has a vibration frequency designed to calm our electrical inner wiring so we gain some peace. Ask for help from your Inner Self. You can do this in conversations with your Higher Realm Guides, and use the Dream Incubation! (my favorite)

And finally, wait until it tells you it is ready! There is that Eureka moment that comes with the first crack of the eggshell, and your whole being knows what to do and that the Dream is at the next stage.

The Stirring Inside the Egg

Sometimes the movement will be ignited by an outside source, but most often, as in nature, the MOVEMENT comes from inside the Egg. The stirring of your heart and mind will tell you what direction to take, or when it is ready to begin the next phase of growth.

Benches at Arboretum

So when our next INCUBATION period shows up, let’s embrace it, sit our gorgeous selves down, and know that we are right where we need to be!

Blessings, Robin

Dream Incubation Access the Dream Incubation process!